Friday, September 22, 2006

ME

:) I love these quizzes so here's another one.


1. WHAT COLOR ARE YOUR KITCHEN PLATES? My plates are currently in a box somewhere in my living room-I'm moving tomorrow-but last I saw them (13 months ago), they were white.


2. WHAT BOOK ARE YOU READING NOW? A book about speed reading people (body language) and a fiction novel about a woman who is pregnant by her married lover.


3. WHAT’S ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? Don't have one!


4. FAVORITE BOARD GAME? Does strip Twister count? If not, Chutes & Ladders, Monopoly, Candyland and Trivial Pursuit.


5. FAVORITE MAGAZINES? I don't buy any...but I like some of the girlie ones like Cosmo and Glamour. I also like Writers Digest, and Real Simple.


6. LEAST FAVORITE SMELL? My roommate's dog - she doesn't seem to clean up after him very well.


7. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU THINK OF WHEN YOU WAKE UP IN THE MORNING? Um, I usually think about rolling over again and snuggling back under the covers for a few minutes. Then I think I should get up and check my email.


8. FAVORITE COLOR? dark blue, purple, grey, deep brown and maroon.


9. LEAST FAVORTIE COLOR? hot pink...of the spandex variety


10. HOW MANY RINGS BEFORE YOU ANSWER THE PHONE? Depends who it is and if I recognize the number.
11. FUTURE CHILD'S NAME. No clue - I'd rather discuss that with my husband when I'm pregnant.


12. WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT IN LIFE? Love, respect, friendship and understanding.


13. CHOCOLATE OR VANILLA? Chocolate baby...chocolate. If you remember nothing else about me, remember that.


14. DO YOU LIKE TO DRIVE FAST? Depends on the car I'm driving and how fast we're talking.


15. DO YOU SLEEP WITH A STUFFED ANIMAL? Yep - two of 'em...my teddy bear named Henry and a small stuffed Goofy my brother gave me.


16. STORMS - COOL OR SCARY? Love 'em...as long as there are no tornadoes involved.


17. WHAT TYPE WAS YOUR FIRST Oldsmobile I think...


18. IF YOU COULD MEET ONE PERSON DEAD OR ALIVE WHO WOULD IT BE? Wow, fascinating question. Can I say Jesus or Muhammad? Maybe Babe Ruth too or Lou Gehrig.


19. FAVORITE ALCOHOLIC DRINK? ILots - cranberry and vodka, wheat beers, German Rieslings, greyhounds, sake, Patron tequila.


20. WHAT IS YOUR SIGN & BIRTHDAY? My birthday is May 17 and my sign is Taurus with lots of Capricorn in my chart.


21. IF YOU COULD HAVE ANY JOB WHAT WOULD IT BE? I'd travel and I'd write and probably paint, make pottery, save the rainforests and heal sick children. Is there a job like that? No? Ok, I'll do it sans a job.


22. IF YOU COULD HAVE ANY COLOR HAIR, WHAT WOULD IT BE? A lighter blonde shade then what I have now - maybe some strawberry highlights tossed in for good measure.


23. NUMBER OF SIBLINGS YOU HAVE: Technically 7 but just two really..it's complicated.


24. HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN LOVE? Most definitely.


25. FAVORITE MOVIE? Wow, there are lots. Princess Bride, Bull Durham, Shawshank Redemption, Dogma, Harold & Kumar, The Notebook, etc. There are too many to list here.


26. DO YOU TYPE WITH YOUR FINGERS ON THE RIGHT KEYS? Yep a do.


27. WHAT’S UNDER YOUR BED? Nothing today - it's all sitting in my living room waiting to be packed up and moved. YAY!!!!


28. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE NUMBER? 17, 7 and 9.


29. FAVORITE SPORT TO WATCH? In person? Baseball, soccer & football. On TV during the month of March, college hoops. Otherwise I only catch an occasional football game on TV.


30. WHAT IS YOUR SINGLE BIGGEST FEAR? Not fulfilling my potential and any harm coming to my brother and sister.


31. FAVORITE CD? Probably my Prince triple disc greatest hits but again, it's hard to pick just one. John Mayer's Room for Squares is up there too.


35. KETCHUP OR MUSTARD? Catsup..learn to spell.


36. HAMBURGER OR HOTDOG? Neither unless they are the tofu variety.


37. FAVORITE SOFT DRINK? Several: Mtn. Dew, Sun-Drop, Cherry Coke and Coke in a bottle.


38. THE BEST PLACES YOU HAVE EVER BEEN? Hmm..lots of places but anywhere with a gorgeous sunset, a warm blanket and a handsome man.


39. WHAT SCREEN SAVER IS ON YOUR COMPUTER RIGHT NOW? Some standard screensaver - I can't get any other ones to work.


40. BURGER KING OR MCDONALDS? I don't really eat at those places. If it's gotta be fast food, it's either Quizno's, Taco Bell or something that isn't completely meat-based in its offerings.


41. SOMETHING YOU WANT TO DO BEFORE YOU DIE? Lots!!! Publish my book, invest in a few pieces of real estate, live off of passive income, climb a mountain, finish a couple of 14ers, hike the rainforests, fall madly and passionately in love and marry him, have a couple of kids, learn to tango, donate a million dollars to Oprah's Angel Network, travel to Micronesia, Hawaii, Belize, Argentina, Costa Rica, Guatemala, Nepal, the Caribbean, Spain, England, Portugal, Scotland, Chile, Peru, the Cook Islands, Ethiopia, South Africa, Egypt, Morocco, Japan, China (to see Giant Pandas!!!)..and pretty much every other place out there except Oklahoma, the Dakotas and Texas. Lots and lots and lots of things!

Friday Five

1. What was your biggest accomplishment this year? Well the year's not over but I'd have to put getting fired on the top five things I've done this year. -smirk- In all seriousness, my biggest accomplishment this year has been starting my business and getting new clients. It's been a dream of mine for awhile and it's now a reality. And finishing the first draft of my Maww book was pretty big too!


2. What was your biggest disappointment? Huh..not sure. I guess not being able to leave my job on my terms. It has definitely worked out for the best though so I choose not to dwell on it.


3. Will you be making any New Year's resolutions? Christ no, I hate those things. I don't believe in resolutions - I believe in change. If you need a reason to change something, YOU should be reason enough.


4. Where will you be at midnight? I hate midnight of NYE unless I have a boy to kiss. Otherwise, I'd rather be asleep or on a dance floor somewhere completely intoxicated.


5. Aside from (possibly) staying up late, do you have any other New Year's traditions? Not really - for several years I spent it with friends from college and last year I spent it with Colorado friends in Estes Park.

Sunday, September 17, 2006

Inconsiderate

There are many things in this world I can tolerate - whiney pop stars, the layer of smog over Denver, crappy drivers and people who can't manage their children and then put themselves on TV for all the world to see (why the F would you want the world to know what a shitty parent you are? You should be burying your head in the sand..and your child's head too for that matter because no one wants to be around your snot-nosed ill-mannered devil spawn). I can tolerate that shit...barely.


But I have come to one conclusion this weekend about what I cannot tolerate: inconsiderate people of this world. Currently there are two of them in my life. One is a former friend who has consistently stood me up for evenings out over the last two months. She stood me up twice this weekend. That's the last time that will happen.


The other is my roommate. She has a new puppy. There was never any mention of a possibility of a dog in my apartment. There was no discussion about how I might feel having a 5 pound mutt shitting and pissing all over my place of domicile. No thoughts about how much I HATE smelling like a dog and picking dog hair off of everything I own. None of that.


Personally I do love dogs. But there's a reason I don't have one right now. And honestly there's no reason for my roommate to have one. We're talking about the girl who can't put her damn dirty dishes in the dishwasher until they are smelly and growing bacterial cultures. How the fuck does she think she's going to care for a dog? Not very well that's how. Which is exactly why I am convinced there will be piss on the floor and dogshit around every corner...and that is why I'm angry. If she could take care of it and not bother me with any of it, that would be just fine and dandy. But I'm 98% sure it's not going to go down that way.


And this appears to be a co-purchase with her infant boyfriend (I call anyone between the ages of 18-23 an infant..if you are 24-26 you're a toddler...27-29 is a tween and 30-34 is a teen). Brilliant idea - I'm sure they thought it would be good preparation for when they have children. Again, brilliant.


Who wants to lay bets they'll be on one of those goddamn awful parenting reality TV shows in the next 5 years? Heaven help me to get out of this place.

This is so me..

Except for the angry part...


Your Love Life Secrets Are
Looking back on your life, you will have a few true loves. You're a little scarred from your past relationships, but who isn't? You expect a lot from your lover - you want the full package. You tend to be very picky. In fights, you speak your mind and don't hold back. You know you're right, and you can get quite angry about it. A break-up usually comes as a shock to you. You always think things are going well.



Not so sure about this one though...


You Should Drive a Bentley Azure
You're all flash, and you love to show off to anyone who will watch. And you're such a high roller, this is just one car of many for you...



This however is SO me...


Your Aura is Blue
Spiritual and calm, you tend to live a quiet but enriching life. You are very giving of yourself. And it's hard for you to let go of relationships. The purpose of your life: showing love to other people Famous blues include: Angelina Jolie, the Dali Lama, Oprah Careers for you to try: Psychic, Peace Corps Volunteer, Counselor



What Your Soul Really Looks Like
You are very passionate and quite temperamental. While you can be moody, you always crave comfort. You are a very grounded, responsible, and realistic person. People may not want to hear the truth from you, but they're going to get it. You believe that people see you as larger than life and important. While this is true, they also think you're a bit full of yourself. Your near future is still unknown, and a little scary. You'll get through wild times - and you'll textually enjoy it. For you, love is all about caring and comfort. You couldn't fall in love with someone you didn't trust.



Hopefully this is me ;)...


Your Kissing Technique Is: Perfect
Your kissing technique is amazing - and you know it. You have the confidence to make the first move. And you always seem to know what kissing style is going to work best. Sometimes you're passionate, sometimes you're a tease. And you're always amazing!



Your Personality Is
Idealist (NF)
You are a passionate, caring, and unique person. You are good at expressing yourself and sharing your ideals. You are the most compassionate of all types and connect with others easily. Your heart tends to rule you. You can't make decisions without considering feelings. You seek out other empathetic people to befriend. Truth and authenticity matters in your friendships. In love, you give everything you have to relationships. You fall in love easily. At work, you crave personal expression and meaning in your career. With others, you communicate well. You can spend all night talking with someone. As far as your looks go, you've likely taken the time to develop your own personal style. On weekends, you like to be with others. Charity work is also a favorite pastime of yours.



The Keys to Your Heart
You are attracted to those who have a split personality - cold as ice on the outside but hot as fire in the heart. In love, you feel the most alive when your partner is patient and never willing to give up on you. You'd like to your lover to think you are optimistic and happy. You would be forced to break up with someone who was emotional, moody, and difficult to please. Your ideal relationship is comforting. You crave a relationship where you always feel warmth and love. Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment. You think of marriage as something precious. You'll treasure marriage and treat it as sacred. In this moment, you think of love as something you thirst for. You'll do anything for love, but you won't fall for it easily.



This I LOVE!


Your Fortune Is
Better to be pissed off than pissed on.

More Fun Quizzes

What can I say, I got stood up for brunch..by the same person who stood me up Friday night. Why she thinks she is a friend of mine is beyond me. Perhaps because I let her eh?! No more of that!!


Your Porn Star Name Is...
Luscious Lolita



Your Heart Is Blue
Love is a doing word for you. You know it's love when you treat each other well. You are a giving lover, but you don't give too much. You expect something in return. Your flirting style: Friendly Your lucky first date: Lunch at an outdoor cafe Your dream lover: Is both generous and selfish What you bring to relationships: Loyalty



Your Love Style is Storge
For you, love and friendship are almost the same thing And your love tends to be the enduring, long lasting kind (You've been known to still have connections with exes) But sometimes your love is not the most passionate Leap before you look, and you'll find that fire you crave
Your Kissing Purity Score: 46% Pure
You're not one to kiss and tell... But word is, you kiss pretty well.



You Are The Lovers
You represent ideal love: innocence, trust, exhilaration and joy. You demonstrate the harmony of opposites, two sides coming together. At times, you also represent the struggle between what is right and what is tempting. Control is an issue for you, especially when you don't know your reasons for choosing something. Your fortune: You have an important choice you need to make about love, and it will be a difficult choice to make. You are likely struggling between the love you crave and the love that is right. In the end, you will choose what you crave, even if it's bad for you. Because without what you crave, you will feel empty and incomplete.

Clearly I Have Problems

I love these stupid things...and I seem to have acquired ADD in recent years. I can't just watch TV (football today) and sit on my ass. I have to be doing something else! Today, it's quizzes..even though I do have work to do. :)


You Are 43% Passionate, 57% Compassionate
You possess an ideal balance of passion and compassion. You definitely can get swept away and lose your head a little. But you're rarely a fool for love!



Your Stripper Song Is
She Wants to Move by N.E.R.D. "Her off beat dance makes me fantasize (Her curves) She's sexy!!" You are 100% sex appeal. As simple as that.



What Your Underwear Says About You
You're a total rebel who doesn't conform to any rules. P.S. - It's a jungle down there! You're also way too lazy to do your laundry more than a few times a year.



Woo hoo!

Here are more fun quiz thingies:


You Should Be a Romance Novelist
You see the world as it should be, and this goes double for all matters of the heart. You can find the romance in any situation, and you would make a talented romance story writer... And while you may be a traditional romantic, you're just as likely to be drawn to quirky or dark love stories. As long as it deals with infatuation, heartbreak, and soulmates - you could write it.

Personality Quizzes

Let's see if I can actually make this work!


You Are A Chestnut Tree
You are a born diplomat with a well developed sense of justice. And even though you're impressive and intimidating, you're also fun to be around. You can be irritated easily, and you sometimes act superior. Nevertheless, you are sensitive of others feelings and very loyal. Sometimes you feel misunderstood and are fiercely close to those who know you best.

Friday, September 15, 2006

Three for Thursday

I was reading an article about something called the "monkey mind". Basically it is a state of mind where we constantly compare ourselves to others and criticize ourselves for not being absolutely perfect at everything.


I suffer from this thought process in one fashion or another on a regular basis. I don't necessarily compare myself to others - I push myself to constantly do more and be more. While this is good in some moments, I can be overly-critical. Daily I critique myself and what I've "accomplished" in the day. If I go to my temp job, come home and don't start working immediately..my mental nag kicks in. Every day my mental nag finds another thing to nitpick about. And that's not healthy.


So instead of nagging today, I'm going to list my three for Thursdays.


Three Most Beautiful Sights I've Seen


1. Sunset over Key West.

2. My sister walk to the stage at her high school graduation.

3. My brother's smile when I come home for a visit.


Three Most Joyful Moments of My Life


1. The births of my brother & sister.

2. The day I drove to Denver to follow my dreams.

3. Any moment when my mind is quiet and I truly experience the essence of that moment and of existence.


Thursday, September 07, 2006

True Love

I've often wondered what keeps two people together in a relationship. The longest I've been with a man was 2 years and that was decades ago (ok, it was only a few years back but it feels like at least a decade ago). I'm a huge fan of Walk the Line, the movie based on Johnny Cash's life. Whenever I feel like giving up on love or settling for less than what my heart truly wants, I watch that movie. Even though I don't get any closer to any answer on life-long love, I do feel better..even inspired.


But here's my big question then - and I may come off as a bitch so forgive me if you don't like it. Nix that, kiss my ass if you don't, you've been warned - what kind of love do most people think they have when they get married? Certainly a Johnny-June Carter Cash doesn't happen to everyone. If it didn't, maybe we wouldn't have so many divorces in our country. (Or maybe people just give up when it gets tough..I don't know). Or then again maybe everyone thinks they have that kind of love but they let it fade as life takes over. I wish I knew.


At a friend's BBQ recently a group of us were discussing living together before marriage. I don't want to do it personally - not unless he & I have agreed we are getting married. Preferably we could move in together after becoming engaged. A few people - both men AND women - argued in favor of living together as a trial run. I strongly disagree with this. If you genuinely love someone how could living together change that? And if it does why the hell didn't you see those traits before? Here's an interesting article on living together negatively affecting marriages.


Maybe I'm naive but I do believe true love between two grown, mature and good persons shouldn't be broken by how the person squeezes their toothpaste, or leaving the toilet seat up and their dirty clothes on the floor. Do those things really matter? And if they do how can you argue that you genuinely love the other person? I don't believe you can but then again, I don't believe in divorce. Yes my parents are split up and it was most definitely for the best. My birth mother has serious issues and both my father and I were better off without her in our lives. But they were both young and not ready for marriage. Maybe this is the case in some divorces but I don't think it holds true for all of them. I do believe people are just plain stupid sometimes. Everyone makes mistakes and I do try not to judge harshly when I hear of yet another couple splitting up. I feel strongly about this but I have also been fortunate enough to get to this point in my life and to come to this belief on my own.


Unlike many children of divorced parents, I have been incredibly blessed to life under the umbrella of a healthy marriage. After 7 years of dating, my stepmom & dad did marry and are quite happy together. They have their disagreements and my dad has his pig-headed moments but overall they love each other. They're still affectionate and loving towards each other. My mom (she is my stepmom but I call her Mom) always says she just knew my dad was the man for her. She knew they would spend their lives together.


And those words my friends give me hope. Personally I've always known when I've loved a man and I've known when there was potential to marry him. Clearly it hasn't worked out or I wouldn't be writing this as a very, very single woman..but that's beside the point!


I suppose the main point is to know yourself and take the time to know your partner. I'm a big fan of Oprah's Twenty Questions to Ask Before You Get Married. Of course I am just a big fan of most anything Oprah-related but there are some very valuable insights to be found in these questions and the answers you both give. Although I've never been close to the matrimonial vows myself I have spent a great deal of time thinking about what I want from myself, from him and from our relationship together. Maybe it's not the perfect recipe for a healthy relationship/marriage but I do see the merit in it and I hope one day I can put it to the test!