Last Fall Revisited

So during the course of November there's a certain X who has come back into my life... or at least he was I have no clue where we are at right now.

The drummer I dated briefly last fall/winter is calling again.

It started off with Facebook (because really doesn't everything happen on Facebook...) and then a series of naughty messages. Those messages led to an encounter (we revisited one of our favorite shared past times: movies of a certain kind, you fill in the blank) which led to another encounter at my house. Then there was a 3rd interaction on his kitchen counter followed by a let's hang out and have a drink and talk for awhile evening which ended on his couch again.

The really interesting thing is that each of these interludes has become more intimate in some way. I've seen more of him in the last three weeks (from an emotional standpoint) then I ever saw all of last year.

I'm not sure what to make of it, of him or of what I want from him. It's all still a bit new and at times intriguing.

And other times (like when we don't talk for a few days) it's not as intriguing.

At this point I am entertaining the option of getting to know him better on more than just a superficial level. The real trick is how to let him know I'd like to hang out without being my usual forceful and direct self. He doesn't seem to respond well to that - he's a Scorpio which is a fixed Water sign. I'm a Taurus which is a fixed Earth sign. For non-astro peeps that means neither of us likes to be told what to do or to feel like we are being given orders/directives.

I think a casual movie night might be a good "in" so I have contacted him but have had no response. We'll see what happens.

All I know for sure is that there is a reason he's back - there was something I didn't learn in the last go-round that I need to learn again and hopefully the same can be said for him. Mary () told me my lesson is to be detached from the outcome while still asking for what I want.

Bless her heart I know she's right but it feels a little easier said than done. ;)

I'll keep you updated.